Do you have days where you completely doubt your abilities, even competence, and ability to succeed? Believe it or not I do have those days and I have ways in which I work through them. I’d be a liar to admit I wake up every single day with a surge of confidence running through my veins. There are much fewer days I wake up like this than before. Instead of me googling ways to boost your self confidence and pasting it in the article, I’d rather be honest with you all and share how I work through these days of doubt and uncertainty.
From my viewpoint, a lot of fashion influencers and bloggers tend to shy away from being truly authentic. Authenticity to me is discussing your failures, sharing your personal stories, fears, and concerns in hopes to connect more with your audience and to inspire them. Some people have us fooled on Instagram! They portray their lives as if they are peachy and perfect through pictures and smiles but behind closed doors their lives are in shambles. Of course this is not everyone. When I see bloggers and fashion influencers actually engage through the comments and tell stories that connect with people, it warms my heart! I make sure I always follow influencers like that. People want to know that they aren’t alone in whatever situation they’re going through or went through. People want someone to relate to!
Below are some ways I work through self-doubt. I hope you find these helpful!
- Talk to your Parents/Mentor Someone you look up to and knows you very well!
Speak to someone whom you revere highly, knows your journey and all of your accomplishments very well. This person should be able to brag all about you and the amazing things you’ve done. For me that person is my dearest Mommy. I still live with my mom and I also wear my heart on my sleeves. If something is wrong with me, there’s no hiding it from her. She knows me! lol We all hate getting those sometimes annoying lectures from our parental units. I must admit even though we may dread those lectures from our parents, the takeaway is always profound and it resonates when I discuss my concerns.
2. Behind Every Woman is a group chat of like minded females hyping her up! Talk to your girls/friends!
Listen, my ladies remind me who I am all the time. Even my guy friends as well. I mean you should certainly re-evaluate your circle if your friends aren’t hyping you up and supporting you. People always like to say , “move in silence”. Yes move in silence, but also share with your friends your fears, doubts, goals, and dreams! They will continue to encourage you not to give up and to keep pushing and moving towards your wildest dreams! At least that is what I would hope they would do 🙂
3. Think of all of the things you’re really good at, that you’re better at doing than anyone else.
You have to be your own hype man sometimes! Just this morning, I had to remind myself, like girl you got this! People revere you as a fashion queen, and your talents will take you far. You just have to get used to forcing those positive thoughts in your head. It’s much easier said than done. But I can certainly say I practice what I preach.
4. Speak What you want Into Existence & Envision your amazing future!
You have to envision where you want to be in the next 5-10 years and continue to speak it into existence coupled with your actions of course! You have to feel it, see it even though it’s not your present situation. Where you want to be in the next 5 years should serve as something that keeps you waking up everyday going to that job you hate. Declare what you want. Im motivating myself as I’m writing this! 🙂 If you don’t believe in you, how do you expect others to?
5. Write Down a list of all of your accomplishments
Take a few minutes and compile a list of all of your proudest accomplishments and keep it between you and you only! You’ll be surprised of all the great things you’ve accomplished after looking at your list and digesting it all. It doesn’t have to be long either. I did this the other day and forgot I did some pretty gnarly things. It will make you feel less crappy if you do this.
I hope this was a reminder that everyone experiences self-doubt once in a while and it’s normal to ask yourselves those questions, is it going to work? Can I really do this? The key is to not stay in this mental space for too long. I hope this resonated. Please let me know if I’m missing something. If you experience self doubt how do you guys work through those moments?