Anxiety is a topic that is being discussed more and more. People are starting to have these discussions that 5 years ago seemed almost unusual to discuss. I believe we’re beginning to see more of a discussion surrounding anxiety because of social media and more people are speaking out in general about the effects anxiety has had on their life.
If you’re reading this article and thinking, I don’t have anxiety, well you know what, please share this with someone you know who suffers from anxiety. Anxiety is the most common mental illness in the U.S affecting those of age 18 and older. Anxiety disorders are highly treatable, yet only 36.9% of those suffering receive treatment.
In this article (as the title suggest) I’m going to cover 13 healthy ways for you to manage your anxiety. I won’t dive too deep into my own battle with mental health, but I live with anxiety. I don’t allow it to control me. I manage it through these methods I’m about to go over with you. Without getting too deep, I’m going to share a little bit about my battle with mental health. I’ve experienced depression between the ages of 16-19 on and off. Im glad I got the help I did. Who knows where I would’ve been. I highly doubt I’d be writing this blog post for you guys right now. Through therapy, prayer, and just people praying over me I was able to get better and improve the overall state of my mental health. You have to take one day at a time. As I got older I started to learn more of my triggers and ways to control my racing thoughts of negative self talk that I could not stop. Now that you know a little about me, lets dive right into it.
Listening to Inspiring Podcasts
I just started listening to podcasts heavy within the past year. For the last two years I’ve been commuting over an hour to my job. I would always get so tired of listening to music during those long commutes. Once I learned about podcasts I became hooked. I also have to credit friends for putting me on to specific podcasts with great content. I try to listen to podcasts that will hold some type of value to me-whether that be an entrepreneurial podcasts, faith based, or something in the realm of social media management. There are so many positive podcasts out there that are changing the lives of so many people. I’m not sure of the science or psychology behind it, but listening to positivity vs watching a video tends to resonate more. At least with me it does. One podcast in particular that has gotten me through very toxic and mentally draining work environments is Myliek Teele’s podcast. I’ll be doing a separate post of my top 5 podcast to listen.
Maintain a positive attitude Amongst the Madness
Maintaining a positive attitude when it feels like your life is falling apart or like your situation won’t change is so important. I’ll be the first to admit, it is much easier said than done. I sometimes struggle with this too. You have to have faith that your situation/mental state won’t be forever. Listing to podcasts helped me block out the toxicity surrounding me. Instead of focusing on the negative, fill your mind up with positivity through inspiring podcasts. I also made it a priority to write down a list of all of my accomplishments to remind myself of how far I’ve come. This will also keep you from comparing yourself to others. All of our journey’s won’t look the same.
Im sure you see this a lot on websites if you ever googled how to manage your anxiety. Probably because it actually works! After I left the gym the other morning, I felt so refreshed and cleansed. Exercise can be a band aid-method for some folks. It’s temporary depending on how severe your anxiety is. Work has been stressing me out lately and I’ve been releasing all of that anxiety and stress in the gym. I always leave the gym feeling better than I came. That’s how you should feel when leaving the gym. Working out releases endorphins in the brain which promote positivity and happier moods. If exercise is not already in your schedule, I would recommend incorporating it now. Not only to for health reasons, but to boost your mental health.
Social Media Breaks
You owe it to yourself to take a least 1-2 social media breaks a month and more if needed. I love social media and the benefits it brings, however at the same it’s also annoying when you have to deal with trollers, racists, sexists, and the fakes. Americans consume 11 hours worth of media a day. That’s a full time job I’m not being paid for. It’s exhausting consuming all that content, when 50% of it is not adding any real value to us. When you factor in comparison, and cyber bullying, social media kinda sucks. I feel like dating has been ruined in some ways due to social media. But that’s a conversation for another day.
Prayer/Reading the Word
For my believers! if you are not about your prayer, building your relationship with God, and staying in the word, I highly advise making it a priority. You can easily spend 10 minutes on instagram and candi crush. You should trade that time you spend on those platforms and focus on the word. you can honestly do both, but just make the word a priority. I’d rather read something that’s going to add value. Plus God is always revealing things to you as you read the bible more. I try to connect with his word once a day and or twice a day in some cases. At the end of the day, we are in our current spaces for a reason. God knows the plan, he has the plan, and he is in control; we aren’t. He’s developing things in us so we can move forward and fulfill his purpose. I read a lot of devotionals. If you guys would like recommendations, I’d be happy to share some with you all.
I mediate here and there. It’s very calming to just sit in complete silence. Slow breathing in and out allows the mind to be at rest. This is a great form of self care.
Seek Help- Therapist
If you still feel like you need help, I honestly would recommend a therapist. I understand this can get expensive over time, but if you have health insurance it’s honestly worth the investment to go and seek help. It shouldn’t be that expensive if your health insurance covers most of it. Therapists can help you uncover emotions, and situations you’ve never truly healed from, and assortment of other things. That’s a whole blog post I could go into. Overall, see a therapist if you feel like things are getting worse. Your mental health matters and so do you.
Talk to your Friends
I have some of the most genuine, honest, and loyal gems in my life. I can talk to them about anything. I look to them as therapists at times. You’d be surprised talking to your friends can provide a lot of clarity into your situation. More than likely your friend has experienced the same thing you’re going through or might be able to offer insight. You never know. Open up to them about what’s going on if you truly trust them.
Identify what is Triggering your Anxiety
This seems so obvious, but something that I hadn’t thought about. I was speaking to one of my dearest friends who also suffers from anxiety and she pointed this out to me. Determining where your anxiety is stemming from could help you improve it. We all have different triggers. Mine currently is self-doubt at times, racing thoughts, negative self talk, and belief my situation will never change. I’ve been working on just improving my mindset by praying alot, podcasts, and reading books to stimulate positive thoughts. This is actually a great segway into my next tip.
Wear a Rubber Band or Scrunchie around your Wrist
When I’m having negative racing thoughts, I pop myself with the rubber band. It’s not painful at all. Don’t be so aggressive with it. Just pop it when you notice your thinking is all of the place and negative. This might not work for everyone, but it works for me and I know a few people who use this method. Again you don’t have to do it, but if this sounds like you, it’s worth it to try it.
Listen to Soothing Music
For me that’s R&B & Jazz. I’ve been hooked on Snoh Aalegra specifically.. Her music helps me stay focused. I really feel like her music speaks to my soul. Sometimes I feel like she’s talking to me when I’m listening to her music. It’s easy to relate to, and it soothes your mind.
Accept that your Mental Health Will Improve
The storm will be over eventually. The state of your mental health will improve over time. It’s something you have to work on. There will be good days and there will be some rough days. When I was deep into my depression, I thought there were days where I felt as if it wouldn’t get better.
Writing out what you’re feeling is so freakin’ therapeutic. I can feel myself alreading feeling better as I write out my frustrations, concerns, and or worries. Keep a journal handy and let it all out. The good, the bad, and ugly.
I honestly was nervous to post this If you made it this far, I truly appreciate you. Please feel free to leave your thoughts, insights, and if you’ll be trying any of these tips and implementing them more into your life. Thanks for reading. Check out the outfit details below.
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