Comparison is something people can easily fall into when you’re not at a point in your life where you’d like to be. I am not ashamed to say, that I too can easily fall into this trap. But I don’t stay there for long. In this article, I’m going to equipped you with the armor to overcome this evil thing called comparison.
Keep Your Eyes on Your Own Paper!
My good sis Myliek Teele blessed my hears with this amazing insight and inspiration. Focusing on someone else’s life and wondering why you aren’t where they are is only hurting yourself and your confidence severely in the long run. When you know you are not where you exactly want to be in your life, be mindful of how much you time you spend on social media and watch the company you keep. We all have goals and things we want to accomplish. Sometimes, when you allow it, heavy social media use can deter you from your calling/purpose because you’re so busy comparing your journey to someone else’s. The time you spend comparing yourself to someone else is precious and I mean very precious time you could be investing in making your next million!
Be Mindful of Social media time
I am very strategic in how I spend my time on Instagram, because I know and understand how easy it is to fall into the trap of comparison. Sometimes I find myself getting overwhelmed when I stay on IG for more than 30 minutes. At that point it gets exhausting digesting all of that content after a 30 min period. When you scroll on social media, this can actually make matters worse. Social Media has it’s benefits but it can also be very detrimental to your mental health if you’re not cognizant of how how much time you spend using it. I would limit yourself to 30 min a day.
Sis, Delete the App
If it comes down to it, DELETE INSTAGRAM. Trust me. If you decide to take a 3 month break, instagram, Facebook, and twitter will still be there. There may be some updates, but you will not be missing much. Your goals, well being, and mental health are of much more value. Be kind to yourself people.
Immerse yourself in activities you love!
I’ve found that spending time reading, shopping, talking to friends, or writing instantly takes my mind off that comparison spirit coming through. Think of a few of your hobbies and spend more time involved in those activities when this spirit comes over you. You’ll be so lost in your activity it will make you forget you were stuck in that comparison mindset.
Determine what exactly is triggering this Self Doubt and Redirect that Thought
For instance, I am not where I’d like to be as far as follower growth, income or like count. Sometimes I allow that to get to me when I see my peers with the same niche achieving far beyond that. In those moments, I immediately shut down that thought and remind myself not to compare my journey to someone else’s. I also will redirect by shutting off my phone, closing out my app or referring to my goals list to keep that top of mind. I have been referring to my goals list more recently anytime I sense comparison is coming over. The objective is to use social media as a tool to spread light and positivity. Comparison does not fall under my agenda of spreading light and positivity.
Everyone’s Journey is Different/Trust your timing
This probably has to be my favorite one out of all of these tips. I continue to show up for you guys due to having this mindset in place. Everyone’s journey is not meant to look the same. You don’t know what some of your peers had to go through to get to where they are. Each person probably endured some hardships before they got to do their victory dance. Comparing yourself to someone else is such a disservice to you and your journey. You are right where you are supposed to be for the greater good. I can confidently say this is something I tell myself just about everyday. Im learning that a lot of our success has to to do with our way of thinking. Comparison is truly the thief of joy. You’re only hurting yourself in the end. You have to believe in yourself! You can do this! Please be sure to share this article with anyone who may need some uplifting.
What are some ways you overcome comparison? Please feel free to drop any tips I haven’t mentioned below!