The death of a loved one is a moment we can never prepare ourselves for emotionally. Emotionally it feels like a terrible nightmare that you just wish be over, but never ends. There’s never a right time for it to happen. Even though the death of a loved one is such a tragic event, it helps shed light in certain areas of your life. When you’re an adult and lose someone very close to you, it makes you reflect on your own life and how you can be changing things for the better.
In today’s blog post, I’m going to be diving into 6 Lessons I learned from my grandfather’s death. I hope these lessons will serve as a reminder and force you to reflect on certain areas of your life. I must say, I was shooketh after I reflected on these lessons.
Focus on the Legacy you Want to Leave–
What do you want your legacy to be? What do you want to be remembered for when you leave this earth? What do you feel like you were called to do? What impact do you want to leave in this world?
These are all valid questions that I urge everyone reading this to focus on over the next few days. As I reflected on each of these questions, I grew overwhelmed. In a good way, but also grew a sense of motivation and purpose to do everything that’s been on my heart. I always knew my grandfather was an amazing man, great example of a leader and provider, however I had NO IDEA of the true impact he had on the lives of so many people. I learned and truly understood the impact of his legacy during his funeral as I heard people come up and make their remarks. His loss was tragic. probably one of the worst losses I’ve ever experienced next to my father’s death, however it woke me up and forced me to look at life differently. If I could have half the legacy that man did, I’d die a very happy person. So I urge you to ask yourself this,”What legacy do you want to leave?” Take as much time as you need to answer this question. Send me DM on my instagram at Dayloustyles__ when you’ve come up with your answer.
Always Treat Others with Kindness
Having worked in the service industry for so long, it amazes me the regular people who are so rude to service people. We are human beings too, it’s just not right to talk to people in any way you want to. But anyway, his passing reminded me of how friendly he was to everyone, even complete strangers! He could just randomly strike up a conversation with someone walking on the street. He treated everyone with respect and kindness. It was impossible to be around him and not feel like you were just injected with happiness and laughter. Another point I wanted to make about this, you never know what people are going through also, it doesn’t hurt to be friendly, it could make someone’s day. We could all use some relief from this cold world through genuine kindness to one another.
Each Day we Wake Up is Truly A Blessing
For the longest, I took my next breath for granted. We’re so busy with our lives and getting things accomplished on our to do list, that we forget every breath that we take is a blessing from god. Truthfully in a matter of seconds our lives can be gone . It’s a scary truth that I feel a lot of people are afraid to openly discuss. If you’re ever falling on hard times, or feel like things haven’t been in your favor lately, remind yourself that you woke up this morning and it wasn’t your time to go. God is not done with you yet.
Spend Time with Loved Ones and People You Care about Most
Keep the ones you love close to you, spend time with your loved ones and tell them you love them. Never take them for granted. Appreciate your parents, even though yes they can annoy us sometimes, but it’s all with good intentions! But in all seriousness, keep those special people close to you. Don’t hesitate to reach out. If someone crosses your mind, call or text them. If you want to hang out with someone take initiative and reach out. Life is too short to be caught in ego’s and or pride.
Pursue your Happiness Recklessly
You have to do what makes you happy and brings your soul inner peace, even if that means pissing people off. At least you’re living in your truth. Plus you’re a much content and rational person when you do the things that make you happy and bring peace into your life. I used to care what people think. Those were the times I experienced low self esteem and depression. I cared so much about what people thought, that it caused me to be someone I wasn’t now that I look back. I did not know how to think for myself. It hurts to know I was once like that before. That mindset interfered with my happiness and pursuing it recklessly! If that acting or photography class is going to bring you happiness sign up! If that podcast or e-commerce business is something you always wanted to start, what do you have to lose? Have you always wanted to take a trip to Bali? Save up and go! Make it happen, pursue it, and do what makes you happy!
Last but not least, Go after your Freaking Dreams and Everything that’s on Your Heart!
This seems so cliche, but it has given me so much purpose in the last two months. Sometimes, we ignore the things that have been placed on our heart because we get so caught up in the now. Or if you’re anything like me, you just plain out ignore what’s on your heart or feed yourself with doubt. I’ve learned to stop ignoring what God has placed on my heart. I entertain the things and people that feel right. Don’t ignore it, but embrace it. If something feels right, it usually is a sign that it is right and that it’s happening for a reason.
I hope through sharing some of my lessons it will encourage you all in all aspects of your life. Be encouraged and God Bless.
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